Back in the ‘Hill’ for a breather, or so I thought. My much-needed getaway started with a bang and ended in a blur. I could write sixteen blogs for what has transpired since last Friday. Eventful would be an understatement and a true insult to the sheer cluster of it all.
I have a plethora of lovelies to share from my latest adventures. I’m actually finding it a tad bit difficult deciding the direction and depth. I mean, I could go DEEP. Like, to the bone. But then again I do not want my house burned down. No thank you. Dare I tell such truths that the proverbial pieces of the puzzle could be placed together and point a finger at me? The internet isn’t as big as you think it is. Trust that.
Pen in hand, I sit here collecting my thoughts and ponder:
Why are neighbors nosey?
Reasonably possible explanations for nosey neighbor syndrome:
Crazy, bored, jealous, insecure, lonely, delusional, hateful, and desperate.
There may be one or multiple diagnoses per individual. Some may even own all the precious titles. I have experienced a myriad of combinations, all rather quite frightful and unfortunate.
As I sense the vibe around me I can tell you that it feels negative. In a close-knit community you are literally surrounded. The houses are packed in tight per foot to accommodate demand and line the pockets of contractors. At this location I have homes all around me.
It is virtually impossible not to see your neighbors and for them not to see you. Especially when certain persons plant themselves in front of their picture window and watch for you to pull into the driveway. But how does it go from, ‘OK I saw you’ to the ‘Who, What, When, Where, How and Why?’
How did he/she afford that house?
What do they do?
How many kids do they have?
They have purple flowers—let me buy purple flowers.
OMG why don’t they cut their grass, wash their new car, pick up the trash, etc.?!
I wish their dogs would shut up.
Did you know he/she is dating, cheating, sleeping over, etc.?!
This is called speculation and conjecture conversation amongst participating neighbors. This is the politically correct term for what was traditionally known as gossip.
Mind you, many participants take notes. Any new information that is gathered is immediately added to your index card or computer file. These particular self-designated nosey bodies make sure to gather facts that will be referenced at a later date. They will Sherlock Holmes you.
There are those who have nothing better to do.
They make stuff up just so they have someone and something to talk about.
And then you have the troublemakers who take it to the next level. These folks hate you and insist on spreading lies and dysfunction until everyone else believes you’re scum. Their mission is to vilify your character, words, actions and/or your offspring. It’s all up for grabs.
These neighbors are hell-bent on making sure everyone agrees you are the enemy and should be extracted. Lines are literally laid. Fences are purposely constructed. You may even be exiled for whatever reason and silly you continues to pay your mortgage, completely unaware of your neighborhood ‘status.’
We have all heard of stories or had actual experiences with nosey neighbors. These incidences can create and escalate into disagreements, arguments, fights, feuds and even death.
My eyes and ears are still in working order. I personally see and hear ‘things’ in the neighborhood that I find disturbing. I choose to adopt an enlightened approach and try to refrain from judgment calls.
If I felt entitled to stick my nose where it did not belong, I might make mention that I am aware of and live in close proximity to dysfunction, illness, syndromes and disease, including but not limited to: Hoarding, Senility, Bitchiness, Stupidity, Anti-Social Behaviors and Cheapness.
But me, I live on the sunny side of the street with my property bordered by crystals. I would never say or spread any of that. I don’t need to. I have nosey neighbors.
About the Author
Kaylee is a co-founder of Mind Body Spiritual Awareness. She has been mindfully aware of and practicing her psychic abilities since she was a child. Led by her spirit guides, Kaylee has obtained a vast wealth of knowledge and experience with the ethereal realm and alternative modalities of energy healing. Kaylee is a shamanic healer and New Age artist.