Drama Queens and Kings – Disappointment vs Devastation

disappointment and devastation

Have you ever noticed that many Drama Kings and Drama Queens seem to have no distinction between disappointment and devastation?

It appears to those of us observing from the outskirts that the slightest of letdowns is escalated to a full-blown catastrophe of epic proportions.

These theatrical episodes seem to start small. They can be triggered by something as insignificant as a broken fingernail. Before you have a chance to absorb what has actually just occurred, they abruptly go on some psychedelic journey of worst-case scenarios.

They stream past the obvious solution that would provide a quick remedy. In this case, a utensil called: nail clippers.

Unfortunately their mind couldn’t wrap itself around the non-severity of the situation. To them, they are in the midst of a crisis. A broken fingernail has been turned and twisted into an unrecognizable dilemma.

What is so alarming to the viewer is that these Drama Delinquents don’t even take a breath before they race to the mental finish line of worse possible outcomes. They do a mad dash to devastation.

If you are able to refrain from comment and sit back to observe, you will find their antics have no justification, nor do they need any to continue down the dark path. They somehow convince themselves that something as trivial as a broken nail will lead to possible bacterial infection, staph, gangrene and ultimately amputation.

If you can remain objective you will be amazed at the speed in which they travel from A to Z.

If you are affiliated with one of these individuals it doesn’t take long to ascertain that this mentality goes across the board to every aspect of the Drama King or Drama Queen’s life.

They live under the proverbial cloud of death and destruction. It goes way past pessimism. They are consumed with fear. What branches off that fear is a host of negative emotions that ramp to unrecognizable proportions.

This would explain how you or I might view something like being stood up as a disappointment, an inconvenience or even down right rude. A simple deduction that clearly has nothing to do with us and everything to do with the person who didn’t show up.

Okay we might be disturbed or even a bit upset but we can shake it off (whatever the reason) and move on.

Not so much for those rooted in drama. They will take it to the next level. Suddenly it’s all about them and they will flood themselves with a tidal wave of self-deprecating negatives.

Why me? What did I do? What’s wrong with me?

They obviously do not like me. I must not be good enough. I am clearly inadequate. I don’t deserve friends.

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A minor bump in the road has turned into an issue of self-worth.

A letdown has gone array. A full-blown depression has set in. For the next week you will hear nothing but how pathetic they are. This train of thought could spiral down even farther to “Why bother? I might as well call it quits. Nobody would care if I did.”

Now, for those of us wondering, watching and witnessing this unfold, what can we do?

First of all we must acknowledge that a Drama King or Drama Queen did not develop these dramatic tendencies overnight. Therefore, a few kind words or a wave of the magic wand will not remove what’s going on with them.

If you choose to stay close to them, I will say now, many don’t. They cut and run. They drop the drama like a hot potato or a bad habit.

You may consider these issues out of your scope of help. But before you opt out, show some compassion. Gently suggest some professional counseling and poignantly point out why.

If on the other hand you feel committed to the challenge and the relationship, it will require you to have the patience of a saint.

Change will not come overnight. It is unrealistic to think that it could. This will be an ongoing process of reassurance and a restructuring of their thoughts. Of course it is essential to have a willing participant. Be the voice of reason and dissect their fears, one by one. Establish what triggered the current fiasco to spin horribly out of control. The drama initiator may be oblivious to their patterns that prompt the cycle.

Be careful not to become an enabler to the dysfunction. Guard against transfer and/or assimilation to the avalanche of events. If you are not aware you very easily could be buried by the momentum and the force.

If at any point you become overwhelmed, ascertain that you cannot handle the drama or recognize that there has been no visible shift toward improvement, suggest they seek help from someone other than yourself.

There should be no shame in admitting you are not equipped to deal with the constant onslaught of drama. At this point it is advisable to choose to save yourself.

Clearly the Drama King or Drama Queen has chosen to remain drama royalty.

If you have come to this decision because their course of action continues to speak louder than their words, then the end result is that they must occupy their castle without you.

You should carry no fault or failure for being a friend. Walk away knowing you tried with every fiber of your being to extend care and concern. Unfortunately they were unwilling and/or unable to change despite your efforts.

It would be perfectly natural to feel extremely disappointed but let’s leave it there. Going on to devastation would be their tactic. You have seen for yourself that game has no winners.

Life is too short to be anything but happy.

About the Author

Kaylee is a co-founder of Mind Body Spiritual Awareness. She has been mindfully aware of and practicing her psychic abilities since she was a child. Led by her spirit guides, Kaylee has obtained a vast wealth of knowledge and experience with the ethereal realm and alternative modalities of energy healing.

life is too short to be anything but happy